We hear it all the time – love yourself, look after yourself, be good to yourself, be positive – and we all know we should, but the truth is we find it much easier to act on hate yourself, beat yourself up, knock yourself and be negative. Why is that? Best-selling author Kim Morrison tells us to love ourselves … sic!
Seriously what is this strange, degrading fallacy all about? Is it the tall poppy syndrome? Is it a childhood issue we need therapy to get over? Are we afraid of being seen as arrogant if we don’t? Or do we just think it is normal to berate ourselves?
I love positive people, I love being around them, learning from them and being in their company. I have watched them incessantly over the years and I have even tried to mimic their behavior. Over the years it has got me thinking – and I now firmly believe in order to get ahead in life – in order to be the best version of ourselves and learn to love ourselves sic we need to be anything but normal. In fact I am going to be so bold to say it’s time we plain got over ourselves and stepped it up!
I am going to be so bold to say it’s time we plain got over ourselves and stepped it up!
Are you someone who doesn’t like her boobs / hair / body / stretch marks / legs? Do you pass off compliments with a, ‘Oh really? This old thing?’ or ‘Oh gosh I wish!’ Well here’s the ground-breaking advice – stop it! Let’s reframe and get to the core. If you are someone who doesn’t like her boobs because they are too saggy, droopy, big or small think about the woman who has just been told she will need to have hers removed due to a malignant tumor?
Imagine losing your hair due to chemotherapy to treat cancer? What about the person who is bedridden due to an illness that fails their body and does not allow them to even move without pain? There are women out there who would give anything for your stretch marks to know they could have a child. What if I told you tomorrow you would be in a car accident and sorry you will lose the use of your legs? Reframe complete … what do you think of yourself now? Pretty amazing I would imagine!
If you really do want to change, you can do something about it!
It is too easy to find fault. It is too easy to say everything is too hard or that it is different for you. I truly believe there is a choice each and every day that every one of us has – love yourself or loathe yourself. There is no in-between. If you are not happy with where you are at right now then that’s okay, but guess what? If you really do want to change, you can do something about it! No point complaining about it anymore, just get onto it and do something different. We all love to see how people transform their lives, we love before and after photos – well the time is now. It’s time to say I love myself and it’s my turn!
Every step you take, every breath you take, every moment of every day is an opportunity to be grateful and to say I am worth it; I am beautiful and I am loving myself sic!
I am beautiful and I am loving myself sic!
When you put good food in your mouth you are saying I am worth it. Every time you put gorgeous healthy products on your skin, a vaporizer on, paint your nails, give yourself a face mask, work out, go for a walk, get organised, say grace, write in your gratitude journal or smile is all a part of loving yourself. And every single little one of these actions matters.
No more excuses. No more if only. No more I don’t have enough time or money or living in the past. As of here, right now is a new beginning, a new chance and a new moment to say I care.
If you are still struggling on how to change your mindset, then how would you want your teenage son or daughter to love themselves sic? How would you want to hear your best friend talk about herself? Or your mum or dad? What would you like to hear them say about themselves? More importantly, how would you remind them of their goodness, strength and their beauty if they were running themselves down or not making an effort to care for themselves?
Well it’s time to turn that amazing advice on yourself. And remember you are part of the ripple effect. Every positive thing you say and do has an effect on all of those around you. No more I am not good enough. 2014 is the year to start a new trend, it’s time to say ‘Life is good and I am loving myself sic!’
Kim Morrison set a world record as the youngest female to run 100miles in less than 24 hours. Cliff Young was her mentor throughout and still to this day lives by his ethos that success is 90 per cent mental and 10 per cent physical. She has used her running story as a direct metaphor for life – riding the highs, hitting the walls, pushing through the pain barriers, crossing the line and never, ever giving up! She believes combining your inner power and passion, applying your commitment and having truckloads of self-belief is what distinguishes you as an achiever and someone who is passionate about life. It’s about visualising your dream and going for it – regardless of the feedback you receive or the challenges you face. As a five-times best-selling author, creative director of Twenty8 and a multi-tasking mum and wife, Kim shares the essential tools for self-care, discipline, leadership and teamwork and most of all how to shine and have an attitude with sparkle.