Is dieting your knight in shining armour?
When we struggle with shame, guilt, anger or the disappointment of not having the ideal body, we want to be saved. We want a magic bullet. We want it fixed now!
Diets come to our rescue with promises of quick results, rules for us to follow, constraints and control – because clearly we have no ability to control ourselves or we wouldn’t have these extra kilos. Weight loss companies bank on this desire to for the quick fix by marketing products or programs that will supposedly give us that bikini ready body in six weeks.
Weight loss companies bank on this desire to for the quick fix by marketing products or programs that will supposedly give us that bikini ready body in six weeks.
Typically weight loss diets take on a very masculine persona in that they are focused, rule bound, number based (counting calories, counting kilograms, scales, measuring centimeters lost), involve intense exercise, and in the end you either win or lose. And if you ‘fail’ to achieve the promised holy grail of the bikini body it is not the fault of the product or program, it is your fault for not being committed or not having the willpower.
This masculine approach to weight loss simply does not provide sustainable results for most women, particularly once you are over the age of 30.
Dieting pulls us out of our inner body wisdom and our feminine. Women’s psychology and physiology are different to men; not better or worse; just different.
Dieting pulls us out of our inner body wisdom and our feminine.
What if we were to relax into our divine feminine and approach our relationship with our body from a place of nourishment and trust? Trusting that there is an inner wisdom that can step up; an inner wisdom that is our inner knight in shining armour.
Five ways to reclaim your inner feminine body wisdom:
- Accept, truly accept, that food restriction does not work: If it did you wouldn’t still be dieting! If hitting your head against a brick wall hurts … stop it! It is time to try a new approach.
- Make a list of things/activities that give you pleasure. Do at least one every day. We get so busy doing what we should be doing that many of us have forgotten what we enjoy doing.
- Remove all food labeled ‘diet’ or ‘no fat’ from the pantry: No fat diet foods do not provide any pleasure and rarely leave us feeling satiated. So we keep eating more. Healthy fat makes food juicy and yummy and nourishing for the soul. And it triggers the “I am full, stop eating” part of the brain.
- Stop doing exercise that you hate and that leaves you feeling drained not energised: Find movement that makes you smile and leaves you glowing, energised and feeling sexy.
- Have sex! Allow your partner to ravish you … he doesn’t see the ‘fat’ you hate. Men are often confused by their woman’s body hatred, they just think you are gorgeous and sexy and want to get it on. Appreciate and value that; and if you just can’t quite love your body right now … let him love it for you.
Kim Adams is an Eating Psychology Coach who brings a unique perspective to body image, weight loss and health. Kim’s background in performance evaluation and management, psychology and coaching is combined with a personal spiritual approach drawn from yoga, Eastern philosophies and ancient traditions of health and happiness. Kim also enjoys margaritas and Latin music … often at the same time. You can find her at www.happyhealthygroovy.com.au and Facebook.com/happyhealthygroovy